With no relatives nearby to watch my son, my dating life is restricted to Monday nights and alternate weekends.The schedule makes intimacy difficult and the dating (and mating) dance tends to be, well, not very easy.Unfortunately, as two people with impossibly tight and busy schedules, we weren't able to (or perhaps were unwilling or frightened) to carve out enough time in our schedules to really give the relationship a chance.I've also been on several first dates that didn't lead to second dates with other men I've met on Tinder.Tinder's strength is that it easily tells you when there is a mutual attraction. For me, the benefits of using a dating app far outweigh its drawbacks.And rather than wishing on a star, I will take matters into my own hands, swiping right towards my next romance.Especially for women who are middle-aged and older, it feels nice to be 'seen' at a time when society tells you that you are becoming "invisible" unless you look like Jennifer Lopez or Cindy Crawford.I've also learned there men actually interested in dating.
Many of these offers come from much younger men (I mean, 15, 20, or 25 years younger).
On the one hand, my schedule automatically winnows the dating field – someone must I've met men on Tinder interested in both serious and casual relationships.
I would love to fall in love again – to once more experience that type of deep intimacy, with all the joy and pain that it entails.
I'm not sure if it's because older women are seen as more interesting or self-assured, or (as I suspect) because men watch too many X-rated films centered on the younger man/older woman trope. Another downside is that when I match with someone, we are freed from face-to-face communication, which isn't always good.
Many men act in ways I imagine they would if they were sitting across from me over dinner.