We know, sending a text as a revolutionary solution to ghosting is not exactly groundbreaking.And yet somehow, so many of us still can't be bothered.Therefore, the relationship wasn’t bad or a failure, and neither party has to be the bad guy or at fault.The only perspective by which you can evaluate if the relationship made any sense or was a good investment of your time is with time.Therefore, every breakup is an opportunity to go forward, and, after a while, you may even be able to say thank you to the one who gave you your walking papers, even though it felt awful at the time.The fadeaway, a dating move in which you abruptly cut off communication with someone without explanation, is unequivocally rude…but often tempting. But you’re wrong about people being able to take hints.If your relationship gives you more misery than pleasure and more pain than fun, sit down with a pencil and paper and figure out what you want and what you’re willing to offer to get it.
You’re not the parent or the therapist, and no matter how keen your insight, your remarks will be viewed as self-serving.
If you think of every experience as being tuition in the school of life and love, then you can understand that some tuition is higher than others, and some classes are more fun or stick with you longer, or teach you more than others.
But it’s only after time passes that you gain the perspective to see which things you really benefited from.
Unfortunately, many of us feel that if it doesn’t last as long as we wanted or expected it to, then somebody must be to blame, someone has to pay, and it wasn’t a good relationship at all.
Remember that it takes a while to get to know someone, and even perfectly nice people can find that there’s no chemistry after some time passes.